It is sad that a few friends do not have the slightest idea how much they are valued…how much you do your best to help them behind their backs…and still they think you judge them in ways that never crossed your mind. You try to explain to no avail. In such cases, I do not try to defend myself because in my heart, I did what is right for a friend. However I am judged is not much of a concern because the best display of help is when no one is looking. =)